Our words have power and they can either hurt or heal.

While they can lift and build people up they can also tear them down reeking destruction. There is a saying that “people will forget what you did but they won’t forget how you made them feel.” Our words have the ability to bring out various emotions and feelings, and even after apologies have been said and a request for forgiveness made, the memory rarely fades.

The reality is, when it comes to what you say, people don’t forget, especially the person you’re married to. And some people will remind you of what you said long after the words fall from your lips. While words like NEVER, ALWAYS, and STUPID are not ok… ever, these phrases below will breathe life into your relationship the minute you say them.

You are my best friend.

Great marriages are made up of two friends who respect and love each other, faults in all. Your best friend is someone you want to be with and care for when times get tough.

Thank you.

It’s common courtesy  to say thank you but somehow we stop saying it especially for the little things like taking out the trash or making dinner. Saying thank you shows appreciation and that you have a heart of gratitude.

I think you’re sexy.

The passion, the butterflies, the chemistry do not have to die once you get married. Telling your spouse how sexy they are will give them confidence and build emotional and physical connection.

I’m sorry.

If you’ve made a mistake, fess up and be quick to apologize. I’m sorry shows that your marriage matters more than your ego.

What do you think?

Asking for their opinion shows that you value their ideas.

I’m proud of you.

We all want people to be proud of us, especially our spouse. This one simple phrase will give them the peace of mind and the energy that they need to keep going.

We are in this together.

You need to be your partner’s cheerleader at all times. They need to know that you’re on the same team, fighting for them, not against them.

I love growing old with you.

Growing old with your spouse means you’ve weathered the storms, learned from each other, cried together, laughed together and have a deeper understanding of what true love is. Dreaming of the future brings security into the relationship. You’re simply saying that your love will last a lifetime.


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14 thoughts

  • Mercy

    “What would you like me to do for you?” Is another phrase I use, whether it’s helping my husband out with something if he has his hands full, or whenever I’m going to cook dinner I like to ask him sometimes what he would like to eat!

  • Samantha

    “How can I help?” Is what I want to hear. We both work, I work a little less, and I pretty much do everything in the home, including a home cooked meal every single night. At the end of it all, I’m not looking forward to doing those dishes or taking out the trash. I want to know my spouse genuinely wants to take burdens of my shoulders the way I take burdens off of his. I feel resented when I have to ask for help, volunteering it feels so much better.

    • Abigail

      That’s such a great way to put it! “I feel resented when I have to ask for help.” I’m thankful that I have a husband who hears me when I say I don’t want to always ask for things to be done, look around and just do it. When I come home to a clean house, I so appreciate that, and it lets me know he hears me.

      I’ve been learning to say “Thank you” with hugs and kisses more often. Also greeting him when he comes through the door seems to make him feel good too. I say the things on this list often. Life can be a lot, so I have to be his biggest cheerleader.

  • Brenda

    “You’re so easy to love.”
    “I love the way you love me.”
    “You make loving fun.”
    “Every day, I fall more and more in love with you.”
    “I am so very happy that you chose me.”

    My husband is my best friend, my lover, my everything.. I am so incredibly blessed.

  • Cheryl

    Our every conversation ends this way.
    He starts with “I love you”, I counter “I love you more”, he ends with “More every day”.
    I don’t know how it started, but hope it never ends

  • Mimi Becker

    Sometimes I forget to tell him how much his love for me is what keeps me going! We always say I love you in the morning with 3 little kisses and the same at night! The few times during the week that we actually get to go to bed together(my work as an 24hr Er vet tech) after he has fallen asleep I say a prayer of gratitude, for his safety, for God to use him, and I also ask the Lord to strengthen our marriage and keep it protected from the outside whiles of this world!
    I also tell my husband that he is my shelter in storms and will always be my anchor. That he makes me feel safe and protected and loved! Our home is wherever you are and whatever we make it to be together!

    • Jennie montes

      Omg I looove what you said! It brought me to tears cuz that’s how I feel about my husband and what I do for him to. Thank you for sharing that

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