Casey and I love cheat sheets! You know, when someone gives you a bunch of their ideas so you don’t have to think too hard. Because we love you all so much, we’ve created a long cheat sheet for you that will hopefully inspire you. We can always improve our marriage and in fact, we would stress that when couples become stagnant, it’s a very dangerous road to be on.

Here are 50 things you can start doing to improve your marriage today!
  1. Compliment your spouse daily
  2. Buy them their favorite drink (Starbucks, tea, a bottle of wine)
  3. Reach for their hand when watching TV
  4. Talk about the little things
  5. Don’t keep secrets
  6. Initiate sex
  7. Apologize when you’re wrong
  8. Take a walk hand in hand
  9. Go to bed together
  10. Start committing to the 60 Second Blessing
  11. Send flirty texts and emails throughout the day
  12. Read a marriage book together
  13. Appreciate all that your spouse does
  14. Give more and expect less
  15. Simplify your life so you have more time for connection
  16. Schedule date nights regularly
  17. Ask for what you want and need (your spouse isn’t mind reader)
  18. Stay healthy and try to look your best
  19. Remove the television from your bedroom
  20. Create shared goals
  21. Volunteer together
  22. Offer to help with the daily chores
  23. Make forgiveness part of your marriage strategy
  24. Give grace freely
  25. Listen with empathy
  26. Talk a little less and listen more
  27. Turn off your phone
  28. Go on a weekend getaway just you two
  29. Plan and stick to a budget
  30. Remember that you’re on the same team
  31. Always kiss goodnight
  32. Be the first to say SORRY
  33. Be quick to defend your spouse’s honor
  34. Write a love letter
  35. Sleep naked
  36. Be willing to have the tough conversations
  37. Ask open ended questions
  38. Don’t give up
  39. Choose to love even when you don’t feel like it
  40. Make honesty your best policy
  41. Ask for a redo
  42. Eat dinner together
  43. Always discuss major purchases before making them
  44. Remove the word “DIVORCE” from your vocabulary
  45. Have a Naked Dinner
  46. Say NO to something so you can say YES to your marriage
  47. Dream together
  48. Learn something new together
  49. Respect your spouse’s opinion
  50. Be vulnerable

Now it’s your turn. Comment below and tell us one thing you’re going to do this week to improve your marriage.


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18 thoughts

  • Ivy Rice

    One thing I’m going to do this week to improve my marriage is schedule a date night. With both of us in school, working, & being parents to two young children (without childcare may I add – we work opposite shifts) we rarely get time alone in or out of the house.

  • John K.

    Immediately shared with my wife. Our 3 yr old has taken over our relationship and home. On top of me being diagnosed with cancer. It is time for a revolution.

    • Meygan Caston

      Every marriage has struggles. 2 different people, with different personalities, interests, beliefs, fears, etc are bound to bring up conflict.

  • eric

    Many on the list are easy…the naked ones…lol but marriage is work…but even when things are good…these little reminders help…anyone ready to give up….I encourage you to try one more time.

  • Kipp

    Marriage is hard work,it take 2 people to say I do and it takes 2 to make it work as I said 2.the in law should let their children live their lives with no guilt . The in laws have had good live and should allow grow children with their own grown children LIVE LIFE AS THEY SEE FIT and however and to do whatever makes them happy.

  • Robin Connelly

    Wide range of activities — I would like to live up to such a list — the mere presence of the list will help me stay focused.

    I have printed the page to share with my wife, since she doesn’t do email. We may share it with a newly married couple (3 days!) after I discuss it with my wife.

  • Marjorie Hilbourn

    We are going on a Christian Marriage weekend in the mountains next weekend and I will plan to bring some cute duds, look my best (at 8 months pregnant) and sleep naked at least one night….haven’t done that since our first child!! Marriage is worth the WORK!!

  • Tracey

    Be willing to have the tough conversations. That’s what we need to do more of. Sometimes it seems to make us argue so I think that combine with understanding the others point of view. Someone has told me perspective is reality. So to understand the other person better to know their perspective, is important.

  • Ted in Foxton NZ

    wow…. is so easy to read through and to pass or fail my Wife, but extremely hard to look at only myself and the areas and things i need to change, improve and communicate in, to make the best effort…. i am going to read through this list every day… and determine

  • Reese

    I try to do everything on this list. My wife only does a few. I can’t do this by myself, but I refuse to give up. Her? Well, every disagreement we have she wants a divorce, but she’ll have to sue for one if she wants one because I’m fighting for my marriage.

  • Trina

    My husband is a truck driver…he’s barely around and when he is his mind is still over the road. I’ve tried the texts, compliments, and whatever else I can do since he’s not physically here. Now it seems it’s expected of me but he does not reciprocate. Any suggestions?

  • Rhonda Taylor

    We are doing a “honeymoon” remodel and living in our home at the same time. We’ve been married one month. However, together for 10 years.
    I’m going to be more patient with the challenges of not having a kitchen or our bedroom right now and appreciate my husbands willingness to do this remodel together. He is a wonderful husband and it’s important for me to remember he’s also struggling with the inconveniences right now.

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