Ladies, be curious about your husband.

Ditch the obligatory “How was your day?” and replace it with unique, thought provoking, open-ended questions. Demonstrating genuine interest in your husband and opening dialogue shows that you care and enhances one of the joys of marriage — the sharing of lives.

Plan a date night or find some time for you guys to be uninterrupted to focus on each other.

  • If you could have one super power, what would it be?
  • What is your favorite part of our marriage?
  • What is one of your career goals that you want to tackle in the next 10 years?
  • What is your favorite restaurant and why?
  • If you could drive one car for the rest of your life, what would it be?
  • What is one of your dreams that I can help you achieve?
  • What makes you feel overwhelmed at work?
  • Which would be the hardest to give up: coffee or carbs?
  • What is your best memory of our dating years?
  • What could I do to make you feel more respected?
  • What are 5 practical ways that I can show my love for you?
  • If you gave money to charity, which one would you pick and why?
  • How do you like to be kissed?
  • What’s a new hobby you’d like to try?
  • What is one bad habit you need to break but you don’t want to?
  • Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
  • What did your parents teach you that you appreciate now?
  • Describe to me your ideal day?
  • What is your favorite movie of all time?
  • What would you like more of in our marriage?
  • How can I show you that I am listening to you?
  • Who is someone that inspires you to be a greater man?
  • What can I do to make you feel more confident in our future?
  • What can I do for you this week to make your life easier?
  • How often would you like to go out on a date night?
  • What is your favorite thing about your personality?
  • What mutual goal would you like to see us accomplish?
  • What is something you would like us to do to invest in our marriage this year?
  • What’s one thing I can say more often to show you that I respect you?
  • What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

For those of you wives who took the time and asked these questions, how did it go? Were you surprised by their answers? Did you feel more connected to your husband? Was there a specific question/response that stood out to you?


If you’ve found this blog post helpful, make sure to check out our book 365 Connection Questions for Couples and keep asking each other open-ended questions!



Written by Meygan Caston

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Meygan Caston is the co-founder of Marriage365 and lives in sunny Southern California with her husband Casey, their two children and dog Hobie. She loves her family, the beach, writing, spa days and helping couples connect in their marriage. Her life long dream is to live with the Amish for a month, walk the Camino and have lunch with Brené Brown.



19 thoughts

  • Lauren

    Would this be better as “30 Questions to Ask Your Spouse”? Should husbands be encouraged to be curious about their wives and initiate dialogue?

  • Lyn Callan

    This is ridiculous. Why is it just for wives to ask their husbands? Change a personal pronoun here or there and say it is for people to ask their partner! It sounds absurdly old-fashioned for just a wife to ask a husband, “What is one of your dreams that I can help you achieve?” or ANY of these questions, for that matter!

  • Nomes

    Ladies please.
    We are always wanting more out of a relationship, funny thing is men are too.
    You wonder why he doesn’t compliment you, just think, do you compliment him?
    It’s actually refreshing to see an article about the appreciation of husbands.
    Good luck with life if you are only ever focused on yourselves

  • Laurie

    Thank you!! I read my husband these questions tonight over our Friday night date night and it was some of the best conversation we’ve had in awhile and we usually don’t struggle to find things to discuss. In this day and age it’s all about feminism and girl power and men get overlooked and relegated to the back burner as evidenced by your other commenters. I am happy to put my husband on a pedestal sometimes because he does so much for me and our family and this was the perfect way to show him his thoughts and feelings matter in our marriage. I told him you had the same kind of list for women and he said to forward it to him and we would do it on next Friday’s date night. It is not old-fashioned to want to know your husband’s thoughts and wishes and dreams. I’m always trying to find ways to show my husband how much I respect and love him. Marriage is a 2-way street. Thank you again. The emotional intimacy we experienced was a great reward.


    Love these! I do a similar thing with by putting the questions in a jar and at dinner time we each (kids included) take turns passing the jar around and asking a question. Then we all answer the question. The kids love it and it is cute to hear their answers. On date night with my hubby Greg Pincelli we each take turns coming up with unique conversation topics. 🙂 Thanks for the great post. Heather Pincelli

  • Mariah

    I like these! I didn’t see the post about 30 questions to ask your wife but I was already thinking my husband and I could ask each other these questions not just me ask him. And he would ask me them anyway. Thank you.

  • Debbie

    I love these questions! What a great way to interesting and fun conversations. Sometimes when you’ve lived with a person for so long you tend to stop talking and finding out new things. Great idea.

  • Fred

    I’m a husband in a struggling marriage and I can tell you that it would mean a great deal to me if my wife would engage in a conversation with me by asking some of these. I often feel like I don’t matter.

  • Laura

    Why are so many people focused on the title of this list? As with any list of questions, you make them work for you… change the wording to whatever you want. Geez Louise. This is meant to be a guide, not law.

    I enjoyed asking my fiancé these questions while he was driving. I just changed certain words so it fit our relationship. Once we get home he wants to ask me some questions from this list and others!

  • Julene

    My husband is a farmer so during the busiest seasons we do not get to talk daily especially not in depth. I leave one of these questions for him by text message at night and we are able to talk about it in the morning. I have found out a lot from him. It has been great Thank you

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