1. Positivity. Cynicism and sarcasm have their place, but nobody wants to be with someone who is sarcastic and cynical all of the time. It’s exhausting. Being in the presence of someone with a positive outlook on life can actually be energizing. An optimistic husband makes his wife feel good and that positivity is contagious, even inspiring.
2. Security. A woman will feel safe with a man who is emotionally available, honest, trustworthy, and authentic. These are emotional character strengths she can respect and admire in her husband. A man of character and emotional depth is a man who knows who he is and likes himself. His strength is not physical so much as it is in the clarity of his mind and emotions. These are character strengths that a wife not only admires, but feels safe with. He is not a weak man that will bend to the whims of other people. She can trust him to be who he is.
3. Appreciation. All women want to feel appreciated. Women manage a lot on a day to day basis and don’t get a lot of credit. A statement such as, “Hey babe, thanks for making dinner tonight. I really appreciate it,” shows consideration and shows you don’t take your wife for granted. An honest thank you is worth a thousand words. Remember that your words are life giving to those around you.
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For you women… if your husband has complimented you, made you feel secure, bragged about you in front of others, or has been positive at some point in the last few weeks, make sure you tell him how much you appreciated it. Men like compliments and affirmations too.
For you men… pick one area from the 3 points above and make an action plan on how to implement these in your marriage. A few ideas: thank your wife for making dinner. Wrap your arms around her and make her feel safe. If you’ve had a bad day at work, come home, vent for 2 minutes and then move on and don’t allow your bad mood to ruin your evening together.
Positivity, Security, and Affirmation were not present in our own marriage for many years. We were headed for divorce by our third year, buried in over $200k worth of debt, fighting all the time, and ready to escape it all. To hear more how our relationship changed dramatically and what we did about it, click here and check out our story.